Catelynn Lowell has become very outspoken about the strained relationship between her and her biological daughter Carly’s adoptive parents, Brandon and Teresa Davis, and now her husband Tyler Baltierra is giving his thoughts on the tense situation.
As The Ashley previously reported, Catelynn spoke out on Monday about Brandon and Teresa, informing her over 4 million Instagram followers that she was recently blocked by Teresa after sending updates and text messages to Carly, who is now 15 years old. Catelynn went on lash out at Carly’s parents, insisting that she “will not let them take away [her] voice.”
While Cate has been frequently speaking out against Carly’s parents, Tyler has remained relatively quiet on the subject, only weighing in once, in May, after Catelynn told her followers that Brandon and Teresa were not allowing them to see Carly this year for their annual visit.
On Tuesday, though, Tyler took to Instagram Stories to post a long-winded message regarding Catelynn’s decision to speak out, as well as Carly’s parents’ actions toward them up until this point. Calling it a “sensitive and very personal subject,” Tyler confirmed that Brandon and Teresa have “chosen to finally cut us off, which I believe they have every right to do so.”
Tyler went on to state that he is not a victim in this situation.
“I don’t agree with the fact that some say we ‘learned how to manipulate situations and to be a victim and get sympathy.’ I require no sympathy and don’t ever expect it,” Tyler wrote. “I made a decision as a child that will inevitably affect me as an adult, and the children I’m raising for the rest of their lives. I deserve all the criticism and judgement that may come out of that decision…”
He stated that he wants Carly to know the truth about what happened between them and her parents, and because they are now blocked from communicating with Carly, they have to post things publicly so she will be able to see it someday.
“We have no way of getting this information to Carly when/if she seeks it out,” Tyler wrote. “So that’s why we continue to use our platform as a way to get to her in case it’s needed, regardless of anyone’s opinions about it.”
Tyler stated that he and Catelynn can’t apologize or mend the relationship with Brandon and Teresa if they don’t know what upset Carly’s parents in the first place. He also defended Catelynn sending Carly & Co. updates on their family via photos and messages. (As The Ashley reported, some fans expressed in comments on Cate’s social media that Carly may feel bad seeing “happy family” updates from Catelynn.)
“We have been advised multiple times (for years) from people to send updates frequently & as often as possible (ranging from adoption specialists, adoptive parents, adoptees and birthparents who all have more experience than us) so that’s what we’ve been doing,” Tyler wrote.
Tyler went on to defend Catelynn’s decision to publicly reveal what’s been happening between them and Carly’s parents.
“The decision to finally share the whole truth about our situation didn’t come easy,” Tyler explained, adding that they are often accused of “bashing” Carly’s parents whenever they speak out. “…We have never called them names or attacked them by doing so.”
Tyler wrote that he and Cate have explained to Brandon and Teresa how important it is for an adoptee to have access to their birthparents.
“We’ve tried sharing this information with Carly’s parents to no avail, which is saddening, of course, but mostly heartbreaking for Carly’s sake in the end of it all,” he stated.
“I completely understand that some people believe that ‘we are the bad ones’ or that ‘we’re in the wrong,’ and yes we have made many mistakes ourselves navigating this journey from children into adulthood…but to us, this isn’t about ‘right and wrong’ or ‘good vs. bad’ because it’s actually quite typical for birthparents to be expected to remain silent, to be ridiculed and judged for having any sort of emotions/reactions to their feelings regarding their own adoption experience, so we’re very used to this by now.”
Tyler wrote that him and Catelynn believe Carly “deserves the truth” and “the dignity to make decisions based on all of the facts.” He went on to claim that, if Carly knows exactly how things went down, she will be able to decide for herself if she wants to have Catelynn and Tyler (and their kids) in her life when she’s an adult.
He then made it clear that he and Catelynn have no intention of keeping the drama between them and Brandon and Teresa private.
“We will continue to share our truth, so that way when Carly decides to be in our lives, or not be in our lives, we’ll all have peace, knowing that she will have made that decision on her own, with all of the facts pertaining to her very unique adoption situation,” Tyler wrote, adding that he and Catelynn plan to open up even more and “lay EVERYTHING out on the table.”
“…We have nothing to hide and we have always been comfortable sharing our uncomfortable truths,” he added.
Brandon and Teresa— who have refused to film for MTV since 2019— have not spoken publicly about their feud with Cate and Ty, and have not responded to the ‘Teen Mom’ stars’ latest rants.
